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Happy New Year!

Saturday, January 1st, 2011

Time to get this blog moving. Why the almost year long gap you may ask? Well we discovered it very difficult to do with only our work related computers. Blogging about all aspects of our life was impossible. So our solution was to finally buy a new iPad, which is only used at home, and not left laying around for our grown children to find (another problem we faced)

So what did we do this New Years Eve? Nothing as exciting as last year. I am recovering from shoulder surgery and playing like we did last year wasn’t going to happen. So we had lunch at Red Star, love their jalapeño poppers. Then drinks at Hubers, Spanish coffee of course. Finally more drinks at Tryon Creek Grill, turned out not a good idea. Upon arriving home early I promptly fell asleep do to too much drink and not enough food. She was very good about it all and could have made it a big deal. One of the many reasons I love her.

Happy New Year

Friday, December 31st, 2010

Well it is new years eve day, let the adventure begin. This blog will be about the life of a 40 something couple with grown kids, Strong and stable partners and a desire to do something new!

I am starting by tweeting @her4playat40.

Saturday up keep

Saturday, January 23rd, 2010

What a thing we women do! I am sitting at the Solon getting a mani-pedi. Why? I love the look and the feel, but the time and money? They don’t serve wine just water. Everyone is speaking another language and others pretend to read the months old mags. Why do we do this? I love the sexy look! I always wonder what they are saying, Tina to Tammy– look at these ugly toes why me!! or maybe hairy beast can she shave first!! or She rich women, you need an eye brow waxing–bad!Done 80$ but it makes me feel great!

Weekend up date

Sunday, January 17th, 2010

My friend posted this on facebook this weekend. Unfortunely 97 % will not repost this: “I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can’t handle me at my worst then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best”. Marilyn Monroe. if you’re one of the 3% that will admit to the truth then repost this. I am!I read this and felt power! It is so true how often do women get hushed by others because of their strength.My weekend was calm and relaxing, nothing exciting. It has been a rainy and cold weekend. I am looking forward to work, weird I know but I am thinking I need something to do.

New Year’s Eve

Friday, January 1st, 2010

What an adventure! We decided to go to “The Club” to ring in the new year. “The Club” is Sesso a high end sex club. It was a night of many firsts, unusual sights, and intimidating acts.First, Sesso is a high end sex club, they give tours at 8:30pm on Friday and Saturday if you are interested. It is worth the time to see how things work and where things are. There are two floors, the first is open with a dance floor and full bar. When you walk through the door at the end of the bar there is no alcohol allowed. This area has food. Not my thing – naked bodies, sex and food– NO!  On this floor you can shower, use a locker, eat dinner and use some of the hundreds of condoms throughout the rooms.There is also a couples only room with chaise lounge chairs, condoms and clean sheets. Couples can have sex and play or invite more than your partner – orgies if you choose. We spent some time here on New Years eve. It was weird, but very erotic. Lying on a lounge chair my arms spread over my head, my husband between my legs, licking and eating me. I  opened my eyes to see  a couple in front of the bed watching. Both attractive, he was playing with her boob and his hand other hand was under her dress playing with her clit. It was unsettling at first, a turn-on after that. It was remarkably erotic for me, I could see them in front of me, see the woman’s face, the pleasure of both. At the sometime feeling my husband between my legs. Amazing.On the second floor there are small rooms with mattresses, doors and curtains, in the open area mattresses surrounded by a bar for perfect watching, and a room with a swing. I think I want to try this sometime. We stood on the balcony watching the dancers and others at the bar below. What an eclectic group, small, medium, large and very large! Old, young, first timers, and return clients. I am weirded out by the size and age of some of the people. Fat!!! Not my thing. Old and saggy- not so much! I was also kind of creep-ed out by the number of single men, they seemed to come out of the woodwork at the hint of open sex. At one point a sexy women was at the bar, her partner was going down on her. Very sexy!! All of a sudden five single men surrounded them, YUCK! She had to stop, it really sucked!. A single man has to pay three times the cover to get in and the bouncers are very close, so if you feel uncomfortable just say something and the guys are escorted out. One of the rules of the club is “don’t be creepy”! I love it.It was exciting to stand on the balcony and watch the dancers with my hubby playing with me breasts and clit. It felt wonderful, his hard-on was pressing against my back, his breath was hot on my neck. Watching the people below and them watching me, I never thought this would be a turn-on but it really was.Overall, we had a great night. I can’t wait to go back on a night with fewer people. I am thinking I would like to try the upstairs rooms. Maybe the swing with the curtains closed at first. It could be very embarrassing I think!! I am surprised at how arousing it is to watch others having sex. the way their bodies move and look. Think about it we all  do it. We all enjoy certain things.  There is something very titillating about seeing what others do, are we so different from others, are we similar to them? The questions can be answered, by watching others. The level of excitement it creates is remarkable, and kind of scary.

Introduction to HERS

Friday, January 1st, 2010

 Let me introduce myself, I have decided I am staying at 45 for a few more years. My age is really close, but I think I like 45. Old enough to have confidence and yet a willingness to try anything once. I love to exercise, but am about 30 pounds over weight again! I snow shoe, bike, walk and have two beautiful daughters and a extremely wonderful grand-daughter. My husband and I have been married for a very long time. I like being married. After all this time we know each other and what our limits and boundries are, it makes playing fun. We play silly little games, rating people in terms of how close their body matches mine. I am confident but still very aware of the 30 pounds!! (damn scale it goes up fast and down really really slowly!!) We also rate others on a scale of “would you fuck them” petty yes but fun. We try not to be mean about it, in both games, it makes dinners and people watching really fun.I do work, however it is in a field that requires a great deal of confidentiality. Lets just say I have a BS in Psychology, BA in Education, and Masters of Education degrees. I interact with people of many ages and have summers off to play! It is really a great gig, I love what I do and those I work with.

Welcome to 4playat40!

Friday, January 1st, 2010

Welcome to 4playat40! This blog tracks the adventures of a 40 year old couple. Follow us as we blog about all aspects of being a couple in their 40s.